This week’s theme of being awesome really comes down to controlling the aspects of our life that we have control over. We can control our emotions and be happy. We can control how we manage our energy and we can control what we focus on.
Last week, my friend Beth and I were driving back from a Toastmasters meeting in Columbus. We’d been there for most of the evening as we headed west for our trip back to home, she pointed out a beautiful sunset. It was truly beautiful, but I’m sorry to admit that if she hadn’t pointed it out, I wouldn’t have noticed.
While she was focused on the beauty of the sunset, I was focused on the bugs on my windshield.
Controlling how we focus is a key element to being awesome because our focus will determine our attitude. Her focus on the sunset brought her peace and admiration of nature’s stunning beauty. My focus on the windshield brought me stress and embarrassment.
It’s no secret that positive people focus on what’s right. Negative people focus on what’s wrong. The part that needs to be understood is that we get to choose which part gets our focus.
This is why I like the focusing questions I use when I journal. It brings my attention to the parts of my day that went right and things that I’m grateful for. I spend time thinking about the things that I want to improve but notice the language. I’m not focusing on what went wrong, but what rather, what I can control.
Some helpful ways to refocus yourself as to ask the following questions:
What am I thinking about right now?
Simply bringing attention to what has your attention, is a great way to focus.
What do I have to be grateful for?
It’s nearly impossible to be grateful and fearful at the same time. Focus on gratitude and stress slips away.
What am I looking forward to?
I covered this one, Monday, but it’s a great way to focus on being happy.
How am I making a difference?
Connecting small tasks to a bigger vision will bring focus to what really matter in your life. It will give you more purpose and clarity that will feed your ambition.
How would the person I want to become do this?
This goes back to a blog I wrote a month ago, but by seeing yourself from another angle, you can find the courage to be yourself.
Being awesome is a matter of choice. We can choose to be happy, be high energy and what we focus on. Choose to control the elements that you can control and awesome week can last all year.
What has your focus today?