My guess is, you’re avoiding someone. My guess is that there are people in your life that you’re hiding your passion from. That there’s someone you don’t want to see your message. Who are you avoiding?
Why would I make this my guess?
Because there are people that I avoid. People that I hide my passion from and people whom I don’t want to see my message. Why do we avoid them?
Some are just annoying and other won’t understand, but that’s not why we do it. We’re avoiding these people because we’re afraid of what they’ll think of us.
We write blogs we never post and have ideas we never speak of and calls we never make because we have a story running in our heads that people are going to judge us and ask “who do they think they are?”.
The people that I avoid are other speakers. It took me forever to change my LinkedIn profile because I worried about what others would think of me. I never share blog posts on my personal Facebook account because there’s a “who the hell does he think he is” fear that creeps in. I let my fear of these people and their opinions hold me back from being myself. I know I’m not alone.
But this year, I’ve made a shift. I’ve decided that there’s value to my message and who am I to keep it from someone who might need it. I’ve made a shift because as long as I’m worried about the opinions of others, I can’t be my true self and therefore, never be happy. I wrote on LinkedIn earlier this year that my one resolution is to be me, but that includes being brave enough to share it all.
Too many of us are holding back. Too many of us are hiding. Too many of us have an idea that can help change someone else’s life but because we’re consumed with worry about what they will think of us, we avoid them. We never let them see our passions and they never get our message.
Putting yourself out there isn’t easy. In fact, it’s scary as hell. I’m trembling a little bit just thinking about posting this to my personal Facebook account. It’s hard.
But whenever I encounter something that I say to myself is hard, I’m reminded of my wife’s favorite movie A League Of Their Own. There’s a great scene near the end of the movie when Gina Davis’ character is ready to quit the league. She tells Tom Hanks’ character, her baseball manager, that it’s too hard and he replies with maybe the greatest movie quote of all time:
It’s supposed to be hard. If it weren’t hard, everyone would do it. It’s the hard that makes it great.
Living your passion and sharing your message is supposed to be hard. If it weren’t hard, everyone would do it. It really is the hard that makes it great.
No matter who it is that you’re avoiding, I hope you will join me in facing them. This week, I’m going to share this post on my Facebook wall. I’m going to post a video about how I work and I’m going to let other people’s opinions be none of my business. Join me. Live your passion and share your message -who the hell are we to keep it from them?